Service providers can support youth to negotiate condom use. Service providers can recommend the following strategies for youth:
- Set personal values and boundaries regarding condom use.
- Have a discussion about condom use before intimate activity begins…ideally long before it begins as one of the steps in getting to know each other and setting personal boundaries and limits.
- Be willing to start the conversation.
- Carry condoms to avoid the excuse “I don’t have a condom so we can’t use one.”
- Make sexual decisions when sober so that it is easier to consider and communicate values and limits.
- Be willing to walk away from the activity if a condom will not be used (as long as this does not put a youth in harm).
- Have comebacks or suggestions ready for the most common reasons why partners resist using condoms. Take a look at our conversation box below for example,
I DON’T HAVE A CONDOM: DON’T WORRY, I DO
IT TAKES AWAY FROM THE SPONTANEITY: WE CAN USE CONDOM AS PART OF FOREPLAY
CONDOMS GET IN BETWEEN US: IF WE DON’T USE A CONDOM, THERE WILL BE A GREAT DEAL OF SPACE BETWEEN US
MY PENIS IS TOO BIG FOR CONDOMS: THIS CONDOM FITS OVER MY FIST AND DOWN MY ARM